How many men, from all walks of life, have been ruined by adultery? It’s painful when it happens to pastors in particular, especially since there are warnings against this very thing, and Proverbs 5 is one example.
But it’s certainly not just pastors, and the damage done by this kind of thing goes pretty deep. Families can be shattered and trust destroyed. To say nothing of what this can do to your psyche, even if you don’t get caught.
Proverbs 5 tells us to stay away from the adulterous woman. While her word are sweet and tempting the result is anything but.
And Solomon warns here to “keep far away from her”, not to tempt fate and willpower by hanging around her. Lots of affairs start with friendships, co-workers or other types of emotional connections, so those are things to also be aware of.
And of course, the “adulterous woman” doesn’t necessarily have to be a literal woman, it could be something like porn as well, or something similar that causes distance in your marriage.
This is kind of a hard one to discuss with younger kids, but is an excellent Proverb for fathers and husbands to keep in the front of their minds at all times.
Warning Against Adultery
5 My son, be attentive to my wisdom;
incline your ear to my understanding,
2 that you may keep discretion,
and your lips may guard knowledge.
3 For the lips of a forbidden[a woman drip honey,
and her speech is smoother than oil,
4 but in the end she is bitter as wormwood,
sharp as a two-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death;
her steps follow the path to Sheol;
6 she does not ponder the path of life;
her ways wander, and she does not know it.
7 And now, O sons, listen to me,
and do not depart from the words of my mouth.
8 Keep your way far from her,
and do not go near the door of her house,
9 lest you give your honor to others
and your years to the merciless,
10 lest strangers take their fill of your strength,
and your labors go to the house of a foreigner,
11 and at the end of your life you groan,
when your flesh and body are consumed,
12 and you say, “How I hated discipline,
and my heart despised reproof!
13 I did not listen to the voice of my teachers
or incline my ear to my instructors.
14 I am at the brink of utter ruin
in the assembled congregation.”
15 Drink water from your own cistern,
flowing water from your own well.
16 Should your springs be scattered abroad,
streams of water in the streets?
17 Let them be for yourself alone,
and not for strangers with you.
18 Let your fountain be blessed,
and rejoice in the wife of your youth,
19 a lovely deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight;
be intoxicated always in her love.
20 Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman
and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?
21 For a man’s ways are before the eyes of the Lord,
and he ponders[f all his paths.
22 The iniquities of the wicked ensnare him,
and he is held fast in the cords of his sin.
23 He dies for lack of discipline,
and because of his great folly he is led astray.