Recently I was listening to the Bold & Determined podcast with Victor Pride, and I was struck by some of the things that he said.
A casual listen might have considered them to be racist, but as I listened to another episode of the podcast he actively refuted questions from listeners that had white supremacist undertones.
This was interesting, and I realized that he was likely just being realistic about the issues he was discussing, but in our society today, if you veer too far off the accepted dogma, then you can be crucified.
If anyone with a regular job said the kind of things he said, true or not, they would have instantly been fired from their job as soon as word got back.
But Victor isn’t in that situation.
Victor is sovereign.
He controls his own career, money and therefore, controls his own life.
The issue here isn’t really whether you like Victor or his podcast, in fact it doesn’t matter to him.
The issue is how much sovereignty we have in our own lives.
He had honest things to say about gender.
Also things that would cost a regular guy his job.
But once again, Elliot has made choices in his life that have ultimately lead to his sovereignty.
He controls his income, so he can be true to himself.
And he has undergone quite a journey over the past few years that is, quite frankly, fascinating, and listening to him was equally fascinating.
But back to the issue of sovereignty. This concept really stuck with me after reading Ryan Michler’s book (not coincidentally titled Sovereignty).
Most of us probably don’t enjoy the level of sovereignty of guys like Victor and Elliott.
In fact, most of us have probably unwittingly given up the majority of our sovereignty and power over our lives.
Whether it was
- the choice to eat poorly, not exercise and gain weight,
- the choice to defer to your wife making all the decisions in your family, or
- the choice to tie our financial survival to someone else’s rules and values (either an employer or the government/economy),
we’ve all surrendered some part of our sovereignty.
These are broad categories, so I would imagine they apply to most of you in some form.
I know they do for me.
And when you give up your sovereignty, things can feel hopeless.
But the truth is much more hopeful.
The truth is you can make the conscious choice to regain your sovereignty.
I think it starts by recognizing the fact that you are a man, and you are where you are because you made the choice or series of choices that you made.
The state of your body and health was a choice.
The state of your finances was a choice.
The state of your marriage and family was a choice.
Step one is acknowledging responsibility for your choices.
Accepting all the ways that you have messed up can be brutal.
But it’s necessary to improve and move on, because when you accept that you are responsible for where you are, then you give yourself the power to fix what is wrong.
And that’s the best news of all.
You can make a decision to change your circumstances, and by doing so, regain a portion of your sovereignty.
Now, this doesn’t get you/us immediately to the level of Elliott or Victor, but it is a place to start.
Now I’m going to make a recommendation, based on what I’m currently working on…
Start with your body. Your fitness. Your health. Your appearance.
Why start here?
Because it is the only thing that you have complete control over and can start changing right this very second.
You can make the decision to improve your health and take immediate action to exercise and change your diet.
You can take care of your hair, skin and hygiene.
You can change your wardrobe and the way you present yourself.
These are the kinds of changes that will spill over to help push you forward in other areas.
But most important, they don’t require another person to be onboard.
In the next post, we’ll talk specifically about steps to take to do this.
What are your thoughts on your sovereignty? Have you given it away? Are you working on taking it back? Where are you in the journey?
Let me know in the comments.