Do you think about sex 24 hours a day?
Is the first thing you think about when you see an attractive woman that you wonder what it would be like to have sex with her?
If the above describes you, that’s not a surprise.
And it’s not by accident.
Everything in our culture is designed to create and drive compulsive sexual urges in you.
But why is this the case?
Bear with me as we go down the rabbit hole a little bit… I’ve been thinking/watching/listening/reading a lot of stuff lately about the forces working overtime to subvert our culture.
Let’s bring this down to the most basic level.
Think about how you feel when you haven’t had sex for a few days or a couple of weeks.
You’re a little tense.
You’re probably more aggressive.
You may be even more focused (even if the only focus is on getting laid).
You’re driven to accomplish things (even if the only accomplishment you care about is getting off).
Contrast that with how you feel right after you’ve had an orgasm.
You’re almost totally relaxed.
Maybe a little sleepy.
You’re content to just lay there and bask in the glow of the oxytocin that’s been released.
You’re probably happy.
Now consider how the government/ruling classes view you.
You’re essentially livestock.
You’re useful inasmuch as you work to earn the money that both pays taxes that supposedly sustain the government, and consume the largely worthless products that supposedly sustain the economy.
The last thing “they” (I’ll just put they in quotes for now) want is to have a bunch of focused, driven, aggressive, strong men roaming around the country.
Those are the kinds of men who stand up for what they believe in, call out the B.S. they see in the world, and generally seek out truth (or Logos).
No, they’d rather have lazy, complacent, spineless, unmotivated men who will just go along with whatever.
What better way to do that than to keep you focused on sex 24/7?
So how do they accomplish this?
Entertainment – There’s basically no form of entertainment that you can consume now that doesn’t completely revolve around sex. Movies, sitcoms, etc all normalize casual sex, masturbation and anything else that sexualizes culture.
Advertising – We all know that “sex sells”, and everything can be sexualized. As proof, here is an ad for bread:
Porn – We have unprecedented access to pornography now. You can watch basically anything you want, at any time you want… FROM YOUR PHONE! Porn is not free to produce, yet somehow it’s free to consume. Just think about that. Within my adult lifetime, it has gone from something you had to go to a store and buy (or rent from the skeezy back room of a video store [if you even know what one of those is!]) to being freely available where ever you are.
There’s a deeper agenda here that we will probably look at in more detail later, and that is the anti-family agenda.
Basically, entertainment and porn given women and men, respectively, completely unrealistic expectations of sex and relationships.
As a result, each gender becomes dissatisfied with the other and delves deeper into meaningless sexual behavior.
Men obsess over porn, find that real life sex in a committed relationship is not like that, despair and resign themselves to jerking off alone in front of a video of another man having sex with a woman.
Women use readily available birth control and abortion to have endless, casual sex with a series of men, seeking what they’ve been taught that love is by movies, TV and books (and never finding it).
As a result, men and women don’t pair-bond and far fewer (if any) children result.
But back to the topic at hand.
If they can keep your obession with sex revved up 24/7, they know you won’t be able to focus on anything else.
You won’t be able to focus on your mission, you won’t be able to focus on what’s going on in the world.
Instead you’ll be consuming large amounts of entertainment or worse yet, porn.
Your sexual desire will be building to unmanageable levels.
You might have sex with your wife occasionally, but nowhere near enough.
And then you’ll be moody, lose sleep and not be able to think about much else, like I wrote about earlier.
So you’ll turn to masturbation whenever you can to relieve the pressure.
Leaving you lazy and complacent.
I’ve been there.
There are plenty of other means used to accomplish this, from Estrogens in everything to the Food Pyramid, but mixing this last aspect in makes it even more debilitating.
So now we take a break for another quick personal story.
Last year as part of the 31 Days of Masculinity, I decided to accept the challenge of no porn, no masturbation.
The no porn part was relatively easy.
Not so much.
My wife and I had just had our 3rd child less than 3 months prior, so sex wasn’t really an option at that point.
I made it through the 31 days, but something kind of dark happened as a result.
I got so frustrated with no sex and a pent-up urge to have sex that I focused my energy on seducing someone else.
I should clarify that I never followed through on this plan, though I did act in ways that were inappropriate.
After the 31 days, I masturbated and immediately felt better.
As a result of this experience, I came to believe that the whole no-fap thing was stupid and unnecessary.
In fact, I felt like it was bad, because of my personal response to it.
I’ve since come to a realization about what happened.
I had nowhere else to focus my sexual energy.
I had no real mission, so my aggression and pent-up energy went to things that could have been destructive.
I’ve since come to realize that my response to the situation was entirely due to a lack of self-mastery.
I had given away all my power and sovereignty over my mindset and sexual energy.
You’d be surprised how reframing this whole concept in your mind works to help you overcome these issues.
So here is a 4 step plan for harnessing your sexual energy:
This is like the 4th time I’ve linked this post.
I think it’s that important.
You have to understand what you are losing by not being in control of your self and emotional state.
Stop watching porn. Immediately. Permanently.
I don’t care what some “enlightened” therapist says about this. There are no benefits to watching porn.
It’s like a drug and you will have trouble doing this at first.
Your brain will crave that dopamine hit that comes from watching porn.
You have to resist though.
It will only lead to you jerking off alone.
This will be one of the hardest parts, especially if you are used to doing this multiple times a day.
Understand what your triggers are.
Avoid them or distract yourself if triggers are unavoidable (like taking a shower).
Side note: I know some of this discussion seems amusing. We’re conditioned to laugh this stuff off like it’s silly, but this is a real struggle for some people, so we’re just going to discuss it plainly. Like men.
If masturbation is a real addiction for you, you may need to take measures like doing some physical activity when the urge arises.
Do 100 pushups.
Then focus on self-mastery again.
Because, honestly, you have to get to the point where you’re just able to not do it.
It’s wasting your time and wasting your energy.
Get focused on a mission
Being sovereign is largely about improving yourself.
What this mission is can change over time.
Maybe you’re working on building a business.
I’m working on building this blog as a resource.
Maybe you’re working on getting in better shape. (Part of the reason you’re not having as much sex as you’d like with your wife might be because you look like crap and she’s not attracted to you physically. Just a thought.)
Maybe you’re working on being a better husband or father.
It may be multiple things.
You can work on your body at the same time you’re improving your relationships.
Those dovetail nicely.
Whatever it is, when you want to watch porn and jerk off, consider what it is taking away from the things that really matter in your life.
I promise you that it is not moving you forward when you take even a few minutes to masturbate.
Not to mention the vital energy that’s being wasted.
Once you get past the difficult time (withdrawal?) and start refocusing that energy, you’ll understand exactly how much was being wasted.
Direct your focus, energy and aggression on advancing your mission
Take control of your emotions.
When you want to sit back and watch porn and jerk off, ask yourself why.
What’s driving that desire.
Then think about what you could be doing with that time and energy… AND DO THAT INSTEAD.
I know a lot of people will read this and think that porn and masturbation are not a big deal.
That this is even a little prudish.
That I’m sexually repressed.
Those people are wrong.
I don’t even know how else to say it.
There’s no benefit to being a sexually obsessed person.
Sex is healthy, beautiful and awesome… in the right context.
That context is within your marriage, with your wife.
Unless you are the one directly profiting from it, there’s nothing healthy, awesome or beautiful about jerking off alone, in front of a computer screen.
And this is not to shame people for doing that.
I’ve done it.
It’s to get you to recognize it for what it is.
An unhealthy behavior that provides you absolutely no benefit.
A word on blue-pill conditioning:
If you’re like me and a lot of people who grew up with a blue-pill mindset, you probably didn’t have much sex when you were younger.
You were taught to “be yourself”, “treat women like princesses”, and other things that got you nowhere with women.
As a result, you probably didn’t have the same kind of sexual outlet that more “alpha” guys had.
The problem is that kind of background can lead to an overemphasis on sex later in life.
This becomes just another hurdle to overcome in this process.
But you can overcome it.
So much in life boils down to being absurdly simple, but not easy.
And this is another example.
I’ve spent over 1600 words talking about this, but the bottom line is that tis just comes down to changing your mindset.
Master your mind and your emotions and you can harness the sexual drive and energy that being a man gives you and direct it toward productive things.
Sex can be a productive thing as well, but not always, so you need other outlets.
So now it’s your turn.
What are your thoughts on this?
I’d love to hear them in the comments.